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I am a Black American woman who has a dream, to teach abroad. I have  been  living a drone like life in New Jersey not really ever happy. I always  felt that there was more to life than diners, shopping malls, bad attitudes and traffic. the world is  such a big place. I decided on china for many reasons. I have  always been fascinated by the 5000 year old culture and also all the handsome single Chinese men that may never find love due to the fact that they overpopulate the women. so off I go to China to find a different way of life and  maybe a husband too. lol. You never know.

I hope to use this blog as an account to my life in China. I hope it can be a tool for  other people. I also hope other Black women read this and step outside of their comfort zone and  experience life. Many  black women are scared to travel, traveling is  good for the soul. Please sit  down and  enjoy my life the highs and lows.

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  2. Patrick
    May 20, 2013 @ 22:10:17

    Hi, I was just wondering about racism in China (difficult topic I know). I’m hoping to go to China to teach English in a couple months, and my black girlfriend is thinking of coming along with me. We’re both Canadian citizens and recent university graduates (so as you can imagine a little thin on the teaching experience). How hard would it be for her to get a job teaching English in China given what I just told you? Thanks a lot.

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    • aquariusamber
      Aug 03, 2013 @ 09:26:32

      Well there is racism everywhere. i find more racism in America than in China. In china there are more misconceptions. Due to those misconceptions blacks are stereotyped or likened to Africans. Now there are always teaching jobs in China and in some places they prefer teaching couples. I think your best bet would be to teach at a university. Universities are more open but the pay is low. you do have to have some work experience(not in teaching) before coming to China.

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  3. Kirtland
    May 31, 2013 @ 10:07:38

    Hey Amber,
    This is Kirtland. I responded to your Youtube video before. I have ready several of your posts and am excited to meet you as well as make my way to China. I am also a singleton with a biracial daughter. Here is my blog page: http://www.travelblog.org/Bloggers/TravelingBirds/ I am currently in the Czech Republic, will be spending the summer in northern Michigan, and will then be working in Nanchang. It’s gonna be a whirlwind! Keep in touch!

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  4. Jamijo
    Jan 26, 2014 @ 23:46:58

    Hi amber,
    I started following your blog a few months ago when I was in the process of moving to china. I am your neighbor to the north. I live in yuyao, zhejiang province 🙂 I was wondering if you could email me your email address. I have a couple questions. My email is gbawhl1083@yahoo.com. Thanks

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  6. Christy
    Aug 13, 2014 @ 18:27:30

    I too am leaving the tri-state (Connecticut to be exact) and heading to Jinhua. Is it true that Chinese people will often want to touch me and my hair (I have locs)??

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  7. Christy
    Aug 16, 2014 @ 16:15:08

    Lol…noted…my wechat is cheech413

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  8. Yang
    Aug 26, 2014 @ 06:26:08

    Hello Amber,

    How are you ? My name is Yang and I sent you an email a couple of days ago. Did you receive it? Thanks!:)

    Best,

    Yang

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  9. Nech
    Dec 26, 2014 @ 16:17:49

    Hey Amber! Stumbled across your blog as I’m looking into teaching English in China.. I’m a recent University graduate, no teaching experience or tefl/tesol and certainly not from one of the major English speaking territories (US/UK/Canada). So I’m a bit stumped as to how I’m getting to China by 2016..Any advice?

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  10. rmbryan21
    Jan 30, 2015 @ 04:37:18

    Hello amber☺. I’m preparing to teach in Nanchang no.3 high school in a month, and was wondering if you had any additional advice on living & working there as an black american…as I am as well…thanks!

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    • aquariusamber
      Jan 30, 2015 @ 04:56:46

      Good luck, I found Nanchang not to be hospitable. Join http://www.verynanchang.com. They are very helpful and you can get to know other expats living there.

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      • rmbryan21
        Jan 30, 2015 @ 05:43:16

        Oh no! Would you say if the opportunity to teach somewhere in China (like Hong Kong) is available to take it, or to not even venture there at all? I want to make sure I make an informed decision prior to leaving the States…

      • aquariusamber
        Jan 30, 2015 @ 05:48:02

        Teaching in a public school is a good choice. Nanchang city is ok. It isn’t the cleanest city. I had my good and bad days. I prefer Hangzhou or Suzhou. The weather in Nanchang is mild. You need to base it off of your experiences. It has a lot of Unis so there are African students there. Do though get use to being stared at. I have friends in Nanchang that I can put you in contact with. Oh install wechat app before you come to China. Also get a Vpn.

  11. rmbryan21
    Feb 10, 2015 @ 01:43:04

    Hi Amber! Back again. Your responses and blog have been extremely helpful. I’ve decided to sign a contract with the University and the flight ticket has been purchased, so I’m off to teach in Nanchang this coming March. I don’t think I caught this information from your blog, but would you happen to have a facebook page?

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  12. rmbryan21
    Feb 20, 2015 @ 18:50:24

    I’m contracted to work at Nanchang #3 high school through Jiangxi university. Are you familiar with this school or know of anyone who still works in the high school? Also, what would be your recommendation for packing prior to leaving the states, especially regarding electric appliances? Should i purchase plug converters compatible for US appliances & where’s a good place to get these in the states or Nanchang? Is the Fed Ex near to where the university / high school is, and could the Fed Ex place serve as my mailing address to receive mail? Could I trust shipping things to the area and how much does shipping to Nanchang cost?

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    • aquariusamber
      Feb 21, 2015 @ 03:03:17

      I don’t know anyone who works in the public schools in Nanchang. As for electrical devices just get a converter for your computer. I would buy other electronic devices here. Due to the different voltage system. You should bring electric clippers for your hair. The nearest place that does black hair is in Shanghai. That is Ike a 5 hour train ride from Nanchang. You can buy the converters in the US at Best Buy. Oh and you need to pack a lot of shoes. Have them shipped. You will be hard pressed to find shoes in Nanchang that will fit Western size male feet. in my uni our packages where

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    • aquariusamber
      Feb 21, 2015 @ 03:05:51

      Oh and as for Fed Ex , you can get packages sent to Foreign Affairs office. Or on campus they have a mailing center where you pick up you packages. They call you in Chinese you go and get it. It is extremely important to befriend Chinese students. They will help you with this.

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  13. Mio
    Apr 07, 2015 @ 04:53:07

    Hi! I just wanted to say that I recently found and really love your blog! I plan on going to China eventually (after I graduate from college with a Chinese+International Econ degree; half-way there!) and reading about another black woman’s experience in China is great! Thanks for sharing your experiences!

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    • aquariusamber
      Apr 07, 2015 @ 04:56:45

      Oh thank you so much for reading my blog!! I think you will fall in love with this quirky place called China. Living here has forever changed me. You can find many opportunities here with your major. Just make sure that you have two years of work experience or you will have trouble getting a working Visa.

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  14. Leilani
    Apr 08, 2015 @ 20:03:35

    hello,
    I enjoyed reading your blog. I am a teacher in pa and was thinking of teaching abroad. I heard horror stories of black people teaching in China ( students and parents withdrawal from courses, etc).
    Can you give me some insight and perhaps the agency you went through. I would love seeing more of this world and doing what I love most.
    I would greatly appreciate your opinions.
    Thank you!
    Regards,
    Leilani

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    • aquariusamber
      Apr 09, 2015 @ 03:02:29

      Are you interested in teaching in an international school? Yes it can be tough here many people think black skin is bad and white skin is good. It is even worse if you are fat too. This is not every school. I suggest you apply now this when they have the most posting for international schools. Don’t let any recruiter tell you that you can’t get a job in an international school due to your skin color. It is possible but harder. I actually am going to highly recommend Teaching Nomad. I have been working with them lately and have only positive things to say. I recommend Ollie as your recruiting agent. He is handsome, funny and kind. Plus he has a sexy accent.

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  15. autumnashbough
    May 15, 2015 @ 18:33:25

    I love that you went off to find your bliss! And, hell yeah, there’s more to life than shopping malls. 🙂

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  16. Autumn
    Jun 08, 2015 @ 15:21:34

    AMBER, hello! Just left Beijing and have been in the states for approximately 12 hours:) Would you please email me? I would love to connect!

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  17. BlkAmerican
    Jul 02, 2015 @ 18:32:38

    Hi Amber,

    I’ve really enjoyed reading some of the posts in your blog. I’m an African-American male, been teaching for two years and am currently in the process of securing a job in China for August. Similar to you, I’ve had some bad experiences teaching in the US, but I don’t want to let a few drops of bitterness spoil the pot. I’ve been really enthusiastic about making the jump to China and have been thinking about it for some time. But, I am getting lots of warnings from people about racism, about possibly being the target of police, etc. Should I be concerned about this? Do you have recommendations for what cities to look at (or avoid)? Currently, I am looking at strong leads in Ningbo, Shanghai, Shenzhen and Taipei.

    I’m working with someone at Teaching Nomad and some other agencies as well, hoping to start this Fall. Do you have any other recommendations?

    I am ready to be stared at and be outside of my comfort zone (that’s no problem for me); I’m just concerned about being treated with hostility. Thanks very much!

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    • aquariusamber
      Jul 02, 2015 @ 22:32:09

      I got my new teaching position through Teaching Nomad! I start in August . I want to ask one question, these people that have given you these warning have they ever set foot in another country? Many Americans speak out of their arse. You won’t experierence any problems with police here. They probably think you are cool like an NBA player. There is racism in China but no where near the level of back home. The paparazzi will take your picture and you will get stare downs. Even babies give foreigners stare downs. On thi

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      • BlkAmerican
        Jul 02, 2015 @ 23:34:17

        I’m from the Deep South so I hear you on the racism comparison; I think some people are so afraid to leave their comfort zone they forget that not everything is so rosy about where they’re living. I’m very tall, so the NBA assumption may not be farfetched, lol; I’ll take that any day over the stuff that’s normal here. Thanks for the advice! I was already looking South because of warmer weather, lol, but glad to have confirmation. I’ll certainly keep you posted if this all pans out!

      • aquariusamber
        Jul 02, 2015 @ 23:35:41

        Then opt for Shenzhen, Guangzhou or Xiamen if you like hot weather.

    • aquariusamber
      Jul 02, 2015 @ 22:34:23

      All those cities are great choices stay with the bigger cities and avoid the north. Avoid Nanchang and Jis

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      • ATJ
        Jul 05, 2015 @ 12:58:47

        I am in consideration for a job in Nanchang. Can you please tell me why you recently wrote to avoid that city? Just curious. Thanks!

      • aquariusamber
        Jul 05, 2015 @ 16:44:12

        Nanchang is an extremely dirty city. The locals are extremely unfriendly and hostile to laowai. Also many of the universities are not located in the city but on the outskirts. There is a good website for Nanchang foreigners. It is called http://www.verynanchang.com

  18. TheOrangeMask
    Aug 03, 2015 @ 00:55:17

    Super random, but I was reading your blog about your dating adventures / (misadventures, hehehehe) and was wondering what your thoughts were about how it worked in reverse? In other words, for a black male, how does it look in terms of attracting Chinese women? I can find next to nil on this topic anywhere online but travel and maybe stay in China is something I am planning on doing in the next 2-3 years and I thought you could give a great realistic view of it. Thanks, keep blogging!

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    • aquariusamber
      Aug 04, 2015 @ 00:56:08

      Well it depends on the area you are thinking of traveling to. I would stay closer to large cities like Shanghai or Guangzhou. I saw a Chinese woman black male couple in Wuhan as well. I think black American males actually stand a better chance at finding love abroad. Black American men are considered cool. The NBA is loved over here and they praise Obsma and Jay Z. So yeah I know it is stereotypes but use those to your advantage. It helps to be moderately attractive and fit too. There is a YouTube vlogger s black male with a Chinese wife maybe is name is Randy his blog will help you. He goes off on a crazy rants but his heart is in the right place.

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  19. Stephanie Huang
    Aug 14, 2015 @ 03:05:24

    Hello,

    This is Stephanie from HelloTalk(www.HelloTalk.com)-a language exchange learning App, we want to reach our APP to people who are interested in China and want to learn chinsese. So I’m writing this letter wondering if you can review/recommend our APP on your blog.

    HelloTalk is an app which has over 1.3 million users worldwide and is similar to WhatsApp but has more features on language learning. Such as in-app translation, text-to-voice, voice-to-text, transliteration, and grammar correction, etc. With HelloTalk, one could learn and practice a language with native speakers.

    Recently, a famous polyglot has written a review about our APP(http://www.fluentin3months.com/hellotalk-review/), possible your visitors and followers are looking for an APP like HelloTalk.

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  20. Lovely D
    Aug 17, 2015 @ 20:19:11

    Hello aquariusamber. Is it possible to attain a job over the age of 50? Especially as a African American female?

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  21. kim
    Aug 28, 2015 @ 16:24:45

    Hell Amber, came across your blog through an internet search. Im in the process of relocating to China for an English teacher position. You have shared a lot of good info. Would love to chat sometime. Hope to talk with you soon. Thanks

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  22. xiulan
    Oct 17, 2015 @ 22:27:47

    i have been reading your blog for several months. I am impressed with your courage
    I need your thoughts if you do not mind. My gentleman friend in Huzhou and I have been dating for years. I visit months out of each year. I wanted to say in Texas so that I could finish my degree plans. Now he is preparing for my arrival in 7 weeks. (paper work is completed) . Our wedding reception will be during the Chinese New Year. I wanted to know do you think his community will be accepting of a chinese older man marrying a black woman who is about 10 years younger? I am use to the stares and whispers but I do not want him to suffer in his city due to our marriage. Also I am on the chubby side . I know it will be hard but do you think it will be harder for him?

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    • aquariusamber
      Dec 29, 2015 @ 22:39:58

      Actually if he was married before, they will be more accepting. If he already gave them his obligatory grandchild, they won’t care. It is a bit of a catch 22. There will be more of a language barrier if anything. Just be yourself if they see you love their sun your pure loving heart will win them over. Just remember Chinese mother in laws have a special way to show their love. I am going to send a link to another blogger that has experience with mother in laws. I love her blog.

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  23. Whittery
    Feb 19, 2016 @ 03:35:00

    Hello I have been reading your posts and omg they have been soooooo helpful! How is the city you are in now? Do you still recommend Teaching Nomad? What is your take on LGBT you see in China? I am a black female engaged to another black (and white) female and we are both extremely girly. We both want to come teach there very soon. Should we keep our nuptials quiet in China? I know a little Mandarin and I am dark skinned, she is very light and I don’t want to be “a zoo animal monkey” girl there. I love makeup and I am very glam driven, will I be looked upon as an outcast? I want to go so bad and teach but I don’t want the ignorance of not knowing about black people other than crime to ruin my experience there. I’m hoping she and I can get work in the same school. She has a finance bachelors and I will have a statistics bachelors by that time. Where do you think we should look for work as a couple?

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    • aquariusamber
      Feb 20, 2016 @ 01:05:45

      If I were you sadly I would keep your nuptials quiet in China. Sometimes it is like living in the 80’s here. There isn’t a huge LGBT following here. Not outwardly, everything is on the hush hush. They do have gay bars and clubs here. People will look at you because you are black and they will take pictures. It is something to get use to. In China female friends hold hands as they walk down the street, so you and your girlfriend may get away with handholding without a side glance from the natives. I highly recommend a bigger city like Shanghai for the both you. It is more open and Western embracing. Hangzhou is ok too but Shanghai is the best.

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      • Whittery
        Feb 20, 2016 @ 14:34:40

        Thank you thank you! That was super helpful. I think we will explore Shanghai more thoroughly. I was very hesitant because I read a black man’s blog (he has been loving and working in international IT jobs in China for a few years) and his work scared me to death about Mainland China (if Shanghai is considered mainland) and how hard black peoples have it there. However, I keep telling myself that your blog shows me it’s what you make of the experience and I have learning Mandarin slowly so I think it will be ok! Thanks so much for responding! I’m sure I have a thousand more questions! Can you do a blog about the start to finish process of what to do as far as getting there and in contract?

      • aquariusamber
        Feb 20, 2016 @ 18:45:40

        I think I know that blog, he has a blog too right? he is a bit on the crazy side though. I believe if it is the person that I am thinking of he is married to a Chinese woman. It isn’t always heaven here. However you get use to it and Shanghai is so cosmopolitan that it doesn’t matter.

  24. Whittery
    Feb 21, 2016 @ 02:12:13

    I believe it the same guy, it’s on Quora.com, he definitely puts the fright and terrors into a black person, like I almost decided not to go! Haha! I’m one to gather from personal experience and your blog is so amazing! Please please please don’t ever stop your daily recounts! Can I ask, are you planning on staying permanently in China or will you eventually return to the states or another country? Have you picked up conversational Chinese yet?

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  25. Shani Brown
    Jun 02, 2016 @ 00:58:45

    HI, I will be moving to Beijing, China in july of 2016. I am very nervous and worried about living. Do you know how bad the racism is in Beijing? ( I too read the article from the gentleman on Quora). I also would like to know if you have experienced any harassment from the police? How is it finding an apartment? How is it getting a gym membership? Thank you so much. Love your blog!

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    • aquariusamber
      Jun 04, 2016 @ 00:18:07

      I haven’t been to Beijing before but I have heard it isn’t a foreigner friendly city. There are bloggers in Beijing though so I would say read their accounts as well to get a complete experience. My experience is different. I have no been harassed by the police. I have been wink at and smiled at. One cop wanted to dated me. The ones I met liked Foreigner’s. I have never experienced any adversary police treatment even when I was in the USA. What I view though it is considerably less here. However this is being an American. In Guangdong province by what I have been viewing there are problems with Africans and the police. I think you will be fine. If there is someone from Beijing reading my blog please add more details.

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  26. harlow2014
    Sep 20, 2016 @ 15:42:40

    I’m so glad I found you! I’m looking forward to combing through your archives as I am planning to teach abroad next year. Thanks.

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    • aquariusamber
      Nov 01, 2016 @ 07:32:04

      Where do you plan on teaching?

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      • Simone Smith
        Nov 01, 2016 @ 23:03:12

        I love your blog! I am extremely interested in teaching English in China. My question to you is how has your Chinese speaking ability come along? How was it after 1 year? Would you say you could hold a decent conversation with no problem? And finally how is it presently at this moment and how long have you been in China? Sorry for all the questions but learning chinese is a big factor for me! Thanks in advance!

      • aquariusamber
        Nov 02, 2016 @ 17:49:25

        I honestly have no knack for language acquisition. If you are interested I would say take Mandarin lessons prior to arriving. Most people can become fluent in 3-5 years.

  27. LauraC
    Dec 14, 2016 @ 00:00:39

    Hi Amber!
    First of all your blog is amazing. I just can’t stop reading it!
    I am Brazilian, light skin and now I am living in Sweden. I got interest in working as an au pair (nanny) in China and I was actually afraid of the racism down there but I kinda get how’s the feeling and I that’s something hard to get used!
    About gym, do you feel they looking at you or ppl go straight to their training? I hate to work out and feel ppl staring me it just drives me nut!
    And do you have any insight about the city Chongqing?

    Please, keep blogging! You are amazing!
    Thanks!

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  28. Liz
    Feb 14, 2017 @ 17:34:45

    Hi! I found your blog actually searching about weight loss in China, and it’s all been really interesting and helpful! I leave for China in 1 week to go teach in Hefei for 4 months. Are you still there? Do you have any advice as I prepare? Thanks!

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    • aquariusamber
      Feb 15, 2017 @ 15:59:20

      Just be prepared for the looks and stares. There are some kind hearted Chinese and there are some hateful ones. If you are black it will be tough at times because we are viewed as ugly. So you have to have much self love. Take everything with a grain of salt.

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